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Hi, I’ve been a constant lurker here for the past year… I’ve gleaned a lot of comfort and solace from this group; I almost feel ashamed that I haven’t tried to return the favor to some of you, but I’m sure you understand it’s hard to speak sometimes. I was wondering if anyone here besides me is also married to someone who suffers from depression. My spouse and I are a great comfort to each other a lot of the time, but sometimes it seems to be extra-difficult for us. He’s bipolar and in treatment with meds, and I’m clinically depressed and being treated, too. I dunno, I think it’d be nice to hear from some other people who go through some of the things we deal with. Might help me cope a little better on the hard days… lividity
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Hi lividity I’m Helen. My partner, ex partner now unfortunately, suffered from depression. I’m not sure what kind. Clinical I think. He was very hard to live with. Up and down very regularly and I suffered a lot as I couldn’t really understand it and he took it out on me. We are now separated. I’m not sure what help I can be as we had other issues within the relationship, other than depression. Anyway, he WAS depressed and I think I tend to be a bit that way myself so it’s not too different to you I suppose. It’s very hard. I found that his anxiety triggered mine and we tended to bring each other down. I’d try to build him up, but at my expense. We’d follow each others moods and were constantly evaluating each other, rather than ourselves. It seemed to be this cyclic pattern of anger, depression, exhaustion, despair. It was so hard to live that way. I was so unhappy most of the time. I became isolated and full of despair and anxiety. I will mention that he started medication at the end of the relationship, which didn’t really help at all. I left him in the end because it was too much for me. I’m very sad, even though I’m not dealing with his moods any more. I tried again with him, I thought that we might work if we didn’t live together, but at the moment he’s in a terrible mood and I think he’s down. He’s not talking to me at all and won’t even look at me. So that’s my experience with it so far. Not sure if that helps you at all, but welcome to ASD. I’m relatively new here too. It’s a great place, with very supportive people. I hope that you get a lot here. Helen – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi, I’ve been a constant lurker here for the past year… I’ve gleaned a lot of comfort and solace from this group; I almost feel ashamed that I haven’t tried to return the favor to some of you, but I’m sure you understand it’s hard to speak sometimes. I was wondering if anyone here besides me is also married to someone who suffers from depression. My spouse and I are a great comfort to each other a lot of the time, but sometimes it seems to be extra-difficult for us. He’s bipolar and in treatment with meds, and I’m clinically depressed and being treated, too. I dunno, I think it’d be nice to hear from some other people who go through some of the things we deal with. Might help me cope a little better on the hard days… lividity
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Hi, My wife is married to a depressed man… She is my main source of emotional support and I wonder how she is able to do it sometimes. We depressives tend to push people away…. — John T. May
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi, I’ve been a constant lurker here for the past year… I’ve gleaned a lot of comfort and solace from this group; I almost feel ashamed that I haven’t tried to return the favor to some of you, but I’m sure you understand it’s hard to speak sometimes. I was wondering if anyone here besides me is also married to someone who suffers from depression. My spouse and I are a great comfort to each other a lot of the time, but sometimes it seems to be extra-difficult for us. He’s bipolar and in treatment with meds, and I’m clinically depressed and being treated, too. I dunno, I think it’d be nice to hear from some other people who go through some of the things we deal with. Might help me cope a little better on the hard days… lividity
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I’ve been a constant lurker here for the past year…
snip Hello, and welcome 
) I hope you find that ‘posting’ makes ASD even more useful. — — Whiskers
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Hi, I’ve been a constant lurker here for the past year… I’ve gleaned a lot of comfort and solace from this group; I almost feel ashamed that I haven’t tried to return the favor to some of you, but I’m sure you understand it’s hard to speak sometimes. I was wondering if anyone here besides me is also married to someone who suffers from depression.
hi lividity, welcome to asd. I’m not married but my boyfriend and I both have been diagnosed with depression. we met here in asd. we support each other and so far it works well. Linda
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Well, hello there, and welcome th ASD. I’m glad that you like it here, and hope you continue to enjoy it. :) ~racheal
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Thank you so much for the warm welcome; sometimes it’s a lift just knowing other people are willing to understand. I look forward to hanging around… lividity
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