Depression Learning

HELP!!!!

Question:

     I am a late middle-aged guy that has suffered from severe depression and shyness for all of his life. I never was very good socially, but in the last 10 years I have isolated myself from all social contact. I am currently in treatment for depression, and am being treated by a psychiatrist. He has suggested that I start to widen my social horizons, but I am totally stumped as to where to go to meet people. Hopefully including single women. I know that this complicates things, but I am totally non-religious and not a drinker, nor am I interested in sports. Which leaves me nowhere to go. Please help me, if you can, overcome my depression and shyness. I can only progress by pushing my limits, which means that I must meet people.    I would appreciate any suggestions, from anyone. Where do people go to meet other people? Preferably singles meeting singles. I am not asking you to name a specific place, only generic categories, or types of places. Hopefully places or activities that I might participate in or go to at least weekly, maybe daily. I most likely do not live in your area, so specific names would do me no good. However, if you live in S.E. Michigan, place names would be appreciated.    PLEASE do not respond by posting a reply to this newsgroup. PLEASE respond by email only. My email address is pt…@hotmail.com.    Thank you

Response:

    Wow Dad and Dave you both described me! I wasn’t always shy, but one day I realized that I was. If you want to meet single women, go where they go. Bingo, laundaury mats (we gotta do our laundaury too) and where you feel comfortable. Go out to parks for walks, walk the dog esp small cute ones. Even if you don’t meet any women you’re getting out. Take it slow and easy, don’t rush and realax. Bill

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Dave, I’ve sent this off to ‘Dad’ persons e-mail address just incase you didn’t notice that bit.  All the best, Ocean Rain XXX – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Dave wrote in message <3502cb75.1525…@news.erols.com>… >x-no-archive: yes >On Sun, 08 Mar 1998 03:02:13 GMT, pt…@NOSPAM.hotmail.com (Dad) >wrote: >>     I am a late middle-aged guy that has suffered from severe >>depression and shyness for all of his life. I never was very good >>socially, but in the last 10 years I have isolated myself from all >>social contact. I am currently in treatment for depression, and am >>being treated by a psychiatrist. He has suggested that I start to >>widen my social horizons, but I am totally stumped as to where to go >>to meet people. Hopefully including single women. I know that this >>complicates things, but I am totally non-religious and not a drinker, >>nor am I interested in sports. Which leaves me nowhere to go. Please >>help me, if you can, overcome my depression and shyness. I can only >>progress by pushing my limits, which means that I must meet people. >>   I would appreciate any suggestions, from anyone. Where do people go >>to meet other people? Preferably singles meeting singles. I am not >>asking you to name a specific place, only generic categories, or types >>of places. Hopefully places or activities that I might participate in >>or go to at least weekly, maybe daily. I most likely do not live in >>your area, so specific names would do me no good. However, if you live >>in S.E. Michigan, place names would be appreciated. >>   PLEASE do not respond by posting a reply to this newsgroup. PLEASE >>respond by email only. My email address is pt…@hotmail.com. >>   Thank you >[p'd & e'd] >For a moment I thought *I* had written this!  I’m in my 40’s, a loner, >shy and also alone.  I don’t drink or smoke & I’m not into sports, >either.  I’m in therapy for depression & have been told I have social >phobia (I kinda figured that part out).  Supposedly, women our age are >looking for nice guys like us.  I don’t know how to meet women either. >Being depressed (& shy) makes it very difficult for me to make friends >at all. >I know this doesn’t help, but I thought you’d like to know you’re not >alone.  I do have one thought.  Find out from your shrink or local >hosp if there are any depression support groups in your area.  I found >one and it’s nice to talk face to face with other depressed people.  I >fell comfy & safe there talking about me.  I could never be that open >or social with ‘normies’.  And, it gets me out of the house once in a >while. >Dave(Mr_chips)

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