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crappy days and crappy nights that really need to be wiped

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*he*h* the last sentence struck close to heart. My mom (who’s very overbeearing and never really understand the rest of the family) said one dy" oh,so now i cant speak up my mind with my family,who can i speak i to?" when i said that she had to watch out on how she spoke to the rest of the family(she tends to be agressive,balaming other people, always looking for faults(because she wants to improve the work of  other people) so on an d such. On 19 Apr 1998, sum1 wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->    i am really sad right now because i may have lost someone who was very > dear to my heart…  Lately i have been having extreme difficulty coping > with my shyness which has been compounded by the fact that i just moved to > a new school where i don’t know anyone.  Unfortunately i developed the bad > habit of taking out my own frustrations (involving my shyness and my > depression that went along with it) on my fiance’. To make a long story > short…on one of my really down days i said some REALLY mean things to > him.  we have gotten into really bad fights and usually we remedy them > quickly, but it has been a few days now and he isn’t returning my calls.  i > don’t blame him…i was really wrong…Some good did come out of this…i > decided to seek counseling and i finally informed my family about my > problems….i just can’t live this way any longer..  i have left several > messages with my fiance’ informing him of my new steps…and i really > apologized about how i treated him…Right now my fiance’ is failing out of > school and has been seeking counseling….i was supportive of his situation > most of the time…as i should be.. Unfortunately..depressed people can’t > really make other depressed people feel better..as i proved….To make > matters worse…his parents are visiting…..and i think that they’re > talking him out of calling me back…..i never though they really liked me > anyway, for they are very outgoing people, and i seem so withdrawn compared > to my fiance’s other friends.  i am also afraid that his counselor might > have advised him to end our relationship because it might be better for > him.  After all..if you don’t know the full story….i seem like a very > screwed up person and i wouldn’t blame him/her for saying that.  it might > be better for him…at this moment..but i am willing to change….i have > had to deal with severe verbal abuse growing up..not to mention getting > slammed on while in school too…so ;i had a double whammy…i think that > most people would have killed themselves by now if they were in my > situation….if it were not for my beliefs i think that i would have done > so by now too…so i am to this point in my life….either die or grow and > move forward……not to be too melodramatic ;->…therefore, i am choosing > the latter for now..  So here is the moral of the story…no matter how > much of a crappy day that you have had…..think before you speak when it > comes to your loved ones….

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J McLean <j.mcl…@xtra.co.nz> wrote in article <353983DB.370E6…@xtra.co.nz>… > hey, when you’re in love…. you can do some crazy things.  You can’t > blame your self, it happens to a lot of people.  I’ve done the CRAZIEST > things.  I feel for ya bub, you’re not alone.  Don’t despare.  Be > strong. > John

        Your words made me feel a little better….thanx,                                                 -sum1

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On 19-Apr-98 05:34:30, sum1 wrote : >       i am really sad right now because i may have lost someone who was very >dear to my heart…  Lately i have been having extreme difficulty coping >with my shyness which has been compounded by the fact that i just moved to >a new school where i don’t know anyone.  Unfortunately i developed the bad >habit of taking out my own frustrations (involving my shyness and my >depression that went along with it) on my fiance’. To make a long story >short…on one of my really down days i said some REALLY mean things to >him.  we have gotten into really bad fights and usually we remedy them >quickly, but it has been a few days now and he isn’t returning my calls.  i >don’t blame him…i was really wrong…Some good did come out of this…i >decided to seek counseling and i finally informed my family about my >problems….i just can’t live this way any longer..  

<< some snipped >> Many thanks for sharing your unhappy experience with us. I hope that life gets better for you. Regards. Sylvain Van der Walde. swa…@swalde.u-net.com (Male resident of London, England, UK).

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hey, when you’re in love…. you can do some crazy things.  You can’t blame your self, it happens to a lot of people.  I’ve done the CRAZIEST things.  I feel for ya bub, you’re not alone.  Don’t despare.  Be strong. John – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -sum1 wrote: >         i am really sad right now because i may have lost someone who > was very > dear to my heart…  Lately i have been having extreme difficulty > coping > with my shyness which has been compounded by the fact that i just > moved to > a new school where i don’t know anyone.  Unfortunately i developed the > bad > habit of taking out my own frustrations (involving my shyness and my > depression that went along with it) on my fiance’. To make a long > story > short…on one of my really down days i said some REALLY mean things > to > him.  we have gotten into really bad fights and usually we remedy them > quickly, but it has been a few days now and he isn’t returning my > calls.  i > don’t blame him…i was really wrong…Some good did come out of > this…i > decided to seek counseling and i finally informed my family about my > problems….i just can’t live this way any longer..  i have left > several > messages with my fiance’ informing him of my new steps…and i really > apologized about how i treated him…Right now my fiance’ is failing > out of > school and has been seeking counseling….i was supportive of his > situation > most of the time…as i should be.. Unfortunately..depressed people > can’t > really make other depressed people feel better..as i proved….To make > matters worse…his parents are visiting…..and i think that they’re > talking him out of calling me back…..i never though they really > liked me > anyway, for they are very outgoing people, and i seem so withdrawn > compared > to my fiance’s other friends.  i am also afraid that his counselor > might > have advised him to end our relationship because it might be better > for > him.  After all..if you don’t know the full story….i seem like a > very > screwed up person and i wouldn’t blame him/her for saying that.  it > might > be better for him…at this moment..but i am willing to change….i > have > had to deal with severe verbal abuse growing up..not to mention > getting > slammed on while in school too…so ;i had a double whammy…i think > that > most people would have killed themselves by now if they were in my > situation….if it were not for my beliefs i think that i would have > done > so by now too…so i am to this point in my life….either die or grow > and > move forward……not to be too melodramatic ;->…therefore, i am > choosing > the latter for now..  So here is the moral of the story…no matter > how > much of a crappy day that you have had…..think before you speak when > it > comes to your loved ones….

Response:

        i am really sad right now because i may have lost someone who was very dear to my heart…  Lately i have been having extreme difficulty coping with my shyness which has been compounded by the fact that i just moved to a new school where i don’t know anyone.  Unfortunately i developed the bad habit of taking out my own frustrations (involving my shyness and my depression that went along with it) on my fiance’. To make a long story short…on one of my really down days i said some REALLY mean things to him.  we have gotten into really bad fights and usually we remedy them quickly, but it has been a few days now and he isn’t returning my calls.  i don’t blame him…i was really wrong…Some good did come out of this…i decided to seek counseling and i finally informed my family about my problems….i just can’t live this way any longer..  i have left several messages with my fiance’ informing him of my new steps…and i really apologized about how i treated him…Right now my fiance’ is failing out of school and has been seeking counseling….i was supportive of his situation most of the time…as i should be.. Unfortunately..depressed people can’t really make other depressed people feel better..as i proved….To make matters worse…his parents are visiting…..and i think that they’re talking him out of calling me back…..i never though they really liked me anyway, for they are very outgoing people, and i seem so withdrawn compared to my fiance’s other friends.  i am also afraid that his counselor might have advised him to end our relationship because it might be better for him.  After all..if you don’t know the full story….i seem like a very screwed up person and i wouldn’t blame him/her for saying that.  it might be better for him…at this moment..but i am willing to change….i have had to deal with severe verbal abuse growing up..not to mention getting slammed on while in school too…so ;i had a double whammy…i think that most people would have killed themselves by now if they were in my situation….if it were not for my beliefs i think that i would have done so by now too…so i am to this point in my life….either die or grow and move forward……not to be too melodramatic ;->…therefore, i am choosing the latter for now..  So here is the moral of the story…no matter how much of a crappy day that you have had…..think before you speak when it comes to your loved ones….

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