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Circle!!!

Question:

Help, I am trapped in a vicious circle, I get deppressed because I am lonely, then because I get deppressed I eat which means I either gain weight or am no closer to losing what I already have, so I think that people are judging me about this and I feel alone again (even though I actually have lot’s of freinds, I still get this feeling, is this unusual??), then I get deppressed again, so I eat, well you get the picture anyone who has been in a similar situation help me, also whats the best way to break bad eating habits (e.g. snacking, eating the wrong foods etc). Any help would be greatfully received, Pete

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Hi Pete, I am trapped in a vicious circle, I get deppressed because I am lonely, then because I get deppressed I eat which means I either gain weight or am no closer to losing what I already have, so I think that people are judging me about this and I feel alone again (even though I actually have lot’s of freinds, I still get this feeling, is this unusual??), then I get deppressed again, so I eat, well you get the picture anyone who has been in a similar situation help me, also whats the best way to break bad eating habits (e.g. snacking, eating the wrong foods etc).

I know the feeling. I have to fight two problems in my life, one is being depressed, the other being overweight. I think you should try to see them as two separate issues. Although it’s true that some depressed people grab food to confort themselves, these are still two different problems I think. Most people really don’t care if you’re overweight and don’t judge you on that. If yo’re well balanced for the rest, they’ll be happy to be around you, no matter the weight. And if they jusge you for your physical appearance, then they’re just not very interesting people and why then would YOU like to be around then. For a long time I also had the feeling I was lonely because of the wieght issue. Then I realised the problem was lying somewhere else, and I went into therapy. This took care of the psycological issues, and now I’m strong enough to tackle the weight issue and the food problems. Eating to confort yourself is common, but no solution. Before trying to diet, you should understand the reasons underlying your depression, good luck Cecile – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Any help would be greatfully received, Pete

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Pete, Boy have I been there. I often suffered from nameless depression, and wild bingings on the wrong sorts of foods. In my case I found that food itself seemed to lie at the root of my problems. I went on a low carb diet, and the black depression lifted like a cloud for me. I have not had a serious depressive episode since I went low carb last May. I alos found that my cravings diminished dramatically. I still have to be vigilent because I am not totally free from cravings, and the things I crave are the things that are absolutely the worst for me – sweet baked goods primarily loaded with sugar and white flour. I’ve never much cared for potato chips, Doritos and snacks of that sort – and I don’t miss them at all, but I have always had a sweet tooth. Still do although much diminished, and I can satisfy it with sugar-free low carb snacks. If you have tried other diets and failed but have not tried low carb you might want to think about it. Try reading Protein Power by Drs. Michael and Mary Dan Eades, or Dr. Atkins New Diet Revolution by Dr. Robert C. Atkins In my case I didn’t need any sort of therapy to get over the blues. I just needed to change the way I eat. Amazing how everything is so interconnected. — Debbie dcusick at prodigy dot net "I’d agree with you if you were right." -Awakenings – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Help, I am trapped in a vicious circle, I get deppressed because I am lonely, then because I get deppressed I eat which means I either gain weight or am no closer to losing what I already have, so I think that people are judging me about this and I feel alone again (even though I actually have lot’s of freinds, I still get this feeling, is this unusual??), then I get deppressed again, so I eat, well you get the picture anyone who has been in a similar situation help me, also whats the best way to break bad eating habits (e.g. snacking, eating the wrong foods etc). Any help would be greatfully received, Pete

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Cecile, you wrote a wonderful response to this thread.  You are so right about the weight not being the actual cause of the loneliness.  I always thought that the weight was a barrier between me and others.  What I didn’t realize was that the barrier was how I felt about the weight and the walls were of my own making. Therapy was essential in helping me work out my feelings and depression as well as overeaters Anonymous which really helped me to deal with eating and how my inner feelings effected it and how it effected them. Since I have let go of the walls and the recriminations I feel so free.  I even wear shorts in public, something I have never done in my entire life! While it is true that there are people who will stereotype us because we are overweight, I was far more judgmental of myself than anyone else was.  To be free of that is one of the greatest gifts I ever gave my self. — Claudia  (To e-mail remove no spam xx from address) For Claudia’s Cooking Newsletter celebrating low-fat and sugar-free cooking and living check out: http://www.freeyellow.com/members/cookingnewsletter/

problems in my life, one is being depressed, the other being overweight. I think you should try to see them as two separate issues. Although it’s true that some – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -depressed people grab food to confort themselves, these are still two different problems I think. Most people really don’t care if you’re overweight and don’t judge you on that. If yo’re well balanced for the rest, they’ll be happy to be around you, no matter the weight. And if they jusge you for your physical appearance, then they’re just not very interesting people and why then would YOU like to be around then. For a long time I also had the feeling I was lonely because of the wieght issue. Then I realised the problem was lying somewhere else, and I went into therapy. This took care of the psycological issues, and now I’m strong enough to tackle the weight issue and the food problems. Eating to confort yourself is common, but no solution. Before trying to diet, you should understand the reasons underlying your depression,

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