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Child of Divorce

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My parents have been divorced for 7 years,and I have been depressed ever since. I am 23 ,please help

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Depression can be a major force in someone’s life, and 7 years is a long time to feel miserable.  Have you talked with anyone about this?  A trustworthy friend?  A counselor?  You should get it off of your chest to someone who won’t try to hurt you with it.

My parents have been divorced for 7 years,and I have been depressed ever since. I am 23 ,please help

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Parents divorcing can be very traumatic and depressing.  Have you told them how you feel? My parents have been divorced for 7 years,and I have been depressed ever since. I am 23 ,please help

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-My parents have been divorced for 7 years,and I have been depressed ever -since. I am 23 ,please help Have you sought professional help for your depression?  While the correlation between your parent’s divorce and you depression might be accurate, it just as easily might not be. Your depression started at a point in your life when hormonal changes are occurring.  This could also cause depression.  One side effect of birth control pills is depression.  Depression may also be caused by chemical imbalances. Have yourself checked out thoroughly.  Depression regardless of the cause is something that can be helped. Victoria Lee

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I think it’s normal to be depressed Nicole, but you should of worked thr ough this a long time ago.  I don’t know the circumstances around your parents divorce, perhaps it was a bitter one, but counseling should of gotten you through the bad points to where you can get on with your life. If not I would consider getting into a form of counseling as soon as possible.  Good Luck hon! Daisy Does this condom make me look fat?

My parents have been divorced for 7 years,and I have been depressed ever since. I am 23 ,please help

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My parents have been divorced for 7 years,and I have been depressed ever since. I am 23 ,please help

That would make u about 16 when the divorce happened. Sometimes I am thankful that my children were a little older (none that old though), so they could verbalize their feelings about the divorce. Even there, there are many subtle feelings that float around. My second son (17) just suprised me with unresolved feelings of his, when he heard about my ex’s marriage.         Were u given acknowledgement for your feelings during the divorce?         Did your parents fight a lot in front of you, berate each other in front of u?         Are u still close to both of them?         You are too young to be so troubled. I would approach both of them about this. Get some support, and some counseling. This is important. Deal with it. — At least u recognize it, now deal with it. There are adult children of divorce groups (and other similar groups) u can look into. Don’t hesitate — try whatever u can. Some groups and methods may feel good, other’s not — u won’t know until u try. If u are in school — there is often free counseling available.         I agree with Toni — this may not just be about the divorce, look into it. The divorce was not your fault. Hold your head up, and get on with it. If your parents won’t help — help yourself.                 Best to U —  BillBo — Bill Borsodi                            .’ ‘.            __ http://users.dicksonstreet.com/~billbo/   .         . -{{_(|8) ICQ: 4673467    AOL IM: BillB0777 ‘ .  . ‘ ‘ .  . ‘     (__/` alt.support.Divorce Resource List is at: http://users.dicksonstreet.com/~billbo/divorce2.html Reply-to e-mail address masked. Replace ? with billbo=real address

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[My parents have been divorced for 7 years,and I have been depressed ever [since. I am 23 ,please help Nicole, I was about the same age when my parents divorced.  I’m now 41 (and divorced myself because my wife cheated on me and got pregnant). You will rise above it.  I promise. Keith

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – -My parents have been divorced for 7 years,and I have been depressed ever -since. I am 23 ,please help Have you sought professional help for your depression?  While the correlation between your parent’s divorce and you depression might be accurate, it just as easily might not be. Your depression started at a point in your life when hormonal changes are occurring.  This could also cause depression.  One side effect of birth control pills is depression.  Depression may also be caused by chemical imbalances. Have yourself checked out thoroughly.  Depression regardless of the cause is something that can be helped. Victoria Lee

I believe that clinical depression is primarily treated with medication these days with counseling as a secondary consideration. I have suffered from this and can say these drugs are truly amazing. They are not "feel good" pills, but they will make the stressors more tolerable. If you have been suffering for this long, I would urge you to seek out a psychiatrist to see if meds are right for you. Scott

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I am sorry to hear that you are depressed so long after your parents’ divorce. This may come from wanting to have a perfect home environment, a two-parent household, and a Hollywood family. These images are given to us and we expect that our family life is so abnormal that there must be something wrong with us. A mother of a recent divorce overheard her 8-year old daughter at play in the backyard with another friend. The friend said to the little girl, "You don’t have a daddy anymore, do you?" To which the daughter replied, "Yes, I still have a daddy, it’s just that my mother doesn’t have a husband." Take heart: you will always have a mother and you will always have a father. No one can take that away from you! *** Posted from RemarQ – http://www.remarq.com – Discussions Start Here ™ ***

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I am sorry to hear that you are depressed so long after your parents’ divorce. This may come from wanting to have a perfect home environment, a two-parent household, and a Hollywood family. These images are given to us and we expect that our family life is so abnormal that there must be something wrong with us. A mother of a recent divorce overheard her 8-year old daughter at play in the backyard with another friend. The friend said to the little girl, "You don’t have a daddy anymore, do you?" To which the daughter replied, "Yes, I still have a daddy, it’s just that my mother doesn’t have a husband." Take heart: you will always have a mother and you will always have a father. No one can take that away from you! *** Posted from RemarQ – http://www.remarq.com – Discussions Start Here ™ ***

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You of course will get all the see a therapist advice. And some of these folks are great  with sympathy. There is another idea. What is your rules for a family? Change the rules so you can be happy. What do I mean? Does a happy family have to be mom and dad forever? Could be changed to:  I am loved always, no-matter what. Or maybe, you have a rule that says,           mom and dad got separated because of me, Make it a rule that:  My value as a human has nothing to                                  do with my family status. -Terry

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