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Can an event in once life trigger chronic depression for no reason

Question:

Hi Ali, Perhaps it would be good if you talked this through with a therapist, minister or close friend.  Even though this was an arranged marriage, it must be part of your culture that people do this and it often works out for people.  Perhaps you are feeling bad because you could not make it work.  In your mind, perhaps you are not getting past the fact that you somehow failed.  It sounds like you are caught between two cultures.   Some guidance of how to deal with this would be helpful for you. Take care of yourself!  You are a good person. Liz – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi All This my second post to this group. Here is what happened with me. I am 35 years old male. I was living normal life with no history of anxiety or depression. I decided to get married in my home country (arrange marriage) that is how all my fried got married and I was pretty comfortable with that. The marrige did not work out I started having sever anxiety over what have I done (arrange marriage) I got divorced and came back to US. It has been 4 months since it happened and I am persistently depressed. I do not enjoy things that I used to enjoy any more, I feel very sad for not reason. I have everything good job good future no physical problem. But I do not understand why I feel depressed. My question is it possible that an event in your life can trigger a chronic depression for no reason. I am sensitive by nature but I got over this failed marriage. My primary care physician gave me Lorazepam which I take 0.5 mg twice a day to feel better. I heard that Lorazepam is not for long term depression control. Should I see doc and get Paxil or other meds to control the depression. Any help will be appreciated. Ali

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Response:

See a pschiatrist.you’ll be OK. the fact that youve been ok before this  event bodes well for a recovery. Alot of people would get depressed after what you have been through. you may have some issues about old culture/new cultue(USA) that have to be resolved.nodoby american does arrainged marriages unless its for money and thats another subject. good luck

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – This my second post to this group. Here is what happened with me. I am 35 years old male. I was living normal life with no history of anxiety or depression. I decided to get married in my home country (arrange marriage) that is how all my fried got married and I was pretty comfortable with that. The marrige did not work out I started having sever anxiety over what have I done (arrange marriage) I got divorced and came back to US. It has been 4 months since it happened and I am persistently depressed. I do not enjoy things that I used to enjoy any more, I feel very sad for not reason. I have everything good job good future no physical problem. But I do not understand why I feel depressed. My question is it possible that an event in your life can trigger a chronic depression for no reason. I am sensitive by nature but I got over this failed marriage. My primary care physician gave me Lorazepam which I take 0.5 mg twice a day to feel better. I heard that Lorazepam is not for long term depression control. Should I see doc and get Paxil or other meds to control the depression. Any help will be appreciated. Ali Dear Ali, Please don`t let your primary care physician treat your anxiety and depression, they don`t have the knowledge that a psychiatrist has. You really should see a psychiatrist to diagnosis and treat you. Lorazepam is not a medication for depression, it is a med for anxiety. Paxil is a good med for anxiety and depression, however……only a psych doctor can tell you what anti-depressant is best for you. It is possible that the end of your marriage and then moving back to the states was very stressful on you. Perhaps this was a just a trigger for a disorder that was lurking below the surface. The most important thing is not so much what caused this, but to be treated effectively so you can feel good again. Take care Jackie

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Hi Ali I have everything I dreamed of at the moment and for along time to come I hope as well and I have severe depression at the moment and no real reason why that is logical.  The sad thing is none of my favourite things to do seem to help and I have the syndrome of I cannot stand noise at the moment and Im waking early everyday. I know it will pass but even trying to think of favourite things like hot vegetable curry, my fave show the X FIles and Valipolicella my favourute wine dont bring me up from the pit of it. I feel sad for my partner too as she doesnt know what to do when I get like this either. I know it will get better but I get impatient and get scared when I go into the manic bit when spring comes. I have had agoraphobia and anxiety since 1979 and Im 32 in the spring, so much in our heads I know. Im sensitive also and over worry. I hope you feel less alone? Ray UK — Carol and Ray Blackmoore Stressed depressed? http://roads.to/panic

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi All This my second post to this group. Here is what happened with me. I am 35 years old male. I was living normal life with no history of anxiety or depression. I decided to get married in my home country (arrange marriage) that is how all my fried got married and I was pretty comfortable with that. The marrige did not work out I started having sever anxiety over what have I done (arrange marriage) I got divorced and came back to US. It has been 4 months since it happened and I am persistently depressed. I do not enjoy things that I used to enjoy any more, I feel very sad for not reason. I have everything good job good future no physical problem. But I do not understand why I feel depressed. My question is it possible that an event in your life can trigger a chronic depression for no reason. I am sensitive by nature but I got over this failed marriage. My primary care physician gave me Lorazepam which I take 0.5 mg twice a day to feel better. I heard that Lorazepam is not for long term depression control. Should I see doc and get Paxil or other meds to control the depression. Any help will be appreciated. Ali

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My question is it possible that an event in your life can trigger a chronic depression for no reason.

yes however there are many reasons you feel depressed-guilt over bucking a cultural more and tradation in your native land is a hard decision to make and live with unless you deal with some core issues-psychotherapy preferably by someone who is akin to your culture may help or perhaps even a "mullah" or religious leader of some sort who is not secular enough to judge your divorce-in almost all cultures save a few divorce is acceptable if jointly wished-I know for Hebrews a get is procured by asking the scribe or rabbi for one-a short ceremony then dissolves the marriage-culturaly not legally-I am sure similar traditional modes exist within your culture-lorazepam is not intended for depression but anxiety-in fact it may worsen some forms of depression-in your case it may not but is not the drug of choice-absolution for your guilt is best luck LM

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Lorazepam would be good if your depression is caused by anxiety.  (It can happen that way) I don’t think you have "no reason" to be depressed.  Many people are depressed after a divorce, even if they are leaving an abusive relationship.  In your case, you were trying to do what your family had taught you was the thing to do.  It didn’t work, and that could be a conflict for you.  Maybe this feels like more of a failure to you than you realized? You admit to feeling anxiety about the marriage. You probably don’t need medication so much as counseling.  This may just be a bout of depression associated with the one event, and once you have worked it out, you may be fine.   Lorazepam can reduce some of your symptoms for a little while, but you need to treat the problem more directly as well. May I ask, what is your home country? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi All This my second post to this group. Here is what happened with me. I am 35 years old male. I was living normal life with no history of anxiety or depression. I decided to get married in my home country (arrange marriage) that is how all my fried got married and I was pretty comfortable with that. The marrige did not work out I started having sever anxiety over what have I done (arrange marriage) I got divorced and came back to US. It has been 4 months since it happened and I am persistently depressed. I do not enjoy things that I used to enjoy any more, I feel very sad for not reason. I have everything good job good future no physical problem. But I do not understand why I feel depressed. My question is it possible that an event in your life can trigger a chronic depression for no reason. I am sensitive by nature but I got over this failed marriage. My primary care physician gave me Lorazepam which I take 0.5 mg twice a day to feel better. I heard that Lorazepam is not for long term depression control. Should I see doc and get Paxil or other meds to control the depression. Any help will be appreciated. Ali

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Hi All This my second post to this group. Here is what happened with me. I am 35 years old male. I was living normal life with no history of anxiety or depression. I decided to get married in my home country (arrange marriage) that is how all my fried got married and I was pretty comfortable with that. The marrige did not work out I started having sever anxiety over what have I done (arrange marriage) I got divorced and came back to US. It has been 4 months since it happened and I am persistently depressed. I do not enjoy things that I used to enjoy any more, I feel very sad for not reason. I have everything good job good future no physical problem. But I do not understand why I feel depressed. My question is it possible that an event in your life can trigger a chronic depression for no reason. I am sensitive by nature but I got over this failed marriage. My primary care physician gave me Lorazepam which I take 0.5 mg twice a day to feel better. I heard that Lorazepam is not for long term depression control. Should I see doc and get Paxil or other meds to control the depression. Any help will be appreciated. Ali

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – This my second post to this group. Here is what happened with me. I am 35 years old male. I was living normal life with no history of anxiety or depression. I decided to get married in my home country (arrange marriage) that is how all my fried got married and I was pretty comfortable with that. The marrige did not work out I started having sever anxiety over what have I done (arrange marriage) I got divorced and came back to US. It has been 4 months since it happened and I am persistently depressed. I do not enjoy things that I used to enjoy any more, I feel very sad for not reason. I have everything good job good future no physical problem. But I do not understand why I feel depressed. My question is it possible that an event in your life can trigger a chronic depression for no reason. I am sensitive by nature but I got over this failed marriage. My primary care physician gave me Lorazepam which I take 0.5 mg twice a day to feel better. I heard that Lorazepam is not for long term depression control. Should I see doc and get Paxil or other meds to control the depression. Any help will be appreciated. Ali

Dear Ali, Please don`t let your primary care physician treat your anxiety and depression, they don`t have the knowledge that a psychiatrist has. You really should see a psychiatrist to diagnosis and treat you. Lorazepam is not a medication for depression, it is a med for anxiety. Paxil is a good med for anxiety and depression, however……only a psych doctor can tell you what anti-depressant is best for you. It is possible that the end of your marriage and then moving back to the states was very stressful on you. Perhaps this was a just a trigger for a disorder that was lurking below the surface. The most important thing is not so much what caused this, but to be treated effectively so you can feel good again. Take care Jackie

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