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broken hearted

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Just want to say, that if it was a special relationship, that wouldn’t have happened. Sometimes we need a wake up jolt back to reality – to get us back on track. I know what it’s like to be totally devastated, blown away. Not a nice feeling to experience, what do you do? Drinking is never the answer, nor any consolation. You have to be who you really are, and grow to be that person. Your lover will love you as who you are, and if you have no one, that is not so bad. We all, have to have our own life still, with or without a partner/lover/whatever. We still have to have our reason for living, our dreams, hopes and desires. If you got good friends, they’ll stand by you, no matter what. If they are not there in your bad times, then they are not the friends you thought they were. Anyone can have friends in good times – it’s when the going gets tough, that’s when you’ll find out who your friends really are. Out of the ashes can the phoenix arise. Be that wondrous bird who soars high, out of the old life, to a new one, far better than the old. Reconnect with yourself, be happy being yourself. The water nutrient may be from tears of sadness and pain – but amidst it all, you can become aware, that better things can happen now. When you’re at the bottom, the only way is up. Cheers Harvey

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This is my first time doing anything like this, and I hope that maybe it can help me, if nothing else, then just to vent.  I’m hoping that maybe somebody out there will have some good advice, because I feel as if I’m coming to the end of my rapidly fraying rope.  This has been a very bad year for me.  Around christmas time, my boyfriend of 2 years left me without an explanation.  Just up and left me.  I found out later through a friend that he had been seeing someone else.  I took it pretty hard, and it just led to a snowball of different things.  I lost my job.  I had a problem with drinking. I lost a lot of my friends. I feel as if things are getting a little better, but it’s still really hard for me, because I have no one to talk to, and I feel lonely and sad all the time.  I don’t feel like there’s a point to doing any of the things that I used to do anymore.  They don’t bring me the same kind of joy and satisfaction that they used to.  If there’s anyone out there that has been through anything like this, and has some advice, please feel free to share it. — Posted via Talkway – http://www.talkway.com Exchange ideas on practically anything ™.

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Posted and Mailed I haven’t been through anything like this, but I think some others here have.  A lot of people are having server problems right now and even at the best of times there are delays in seeing posts, so please try to be patient.     Have you been able to find another job?  Are you still having a problem with drinking?  Is there any opportunity for you to get some counseling to help you deal with your feelings?  It’s not unusual for traumatic events in our lives to make us feel depressed.  I’ve read that some of the symptoms of depression are exactly like some of things you are describing.  Like not being able to find joy and satisfaction in things that you once did.  Have you seen your regular medical doctor recently?     Please do come here and talk to us.  <smile>  There’s usually someone "listening" even when you think there might not be.  Jae – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -stripgirl wrote: > This is my first time doing anything like this, and I hope that maybe > it can help me, if nothing else, then just to vent.  I’m hoping that > maybe somebody out there will have some good advice, because I feel as > if I’m coming to the end of my rapidly fraying rope.  This has been a > very bad year for me.  Around christmas time, my boyfriend of 2 years > left me without an explanation.  Just up and left me.  I found out > later through a friend that he had been seeing someone else.  I took it > pretty hard, and it just led to a snowball of different things.  I lost > my job.  I had a problem with drinking. I lost a lot of my friends. I > feel as if things are getting a little better, but it’s still really > hard for me, because I have no one to talk to, and I feel lonely and > sad all the time.  I don’t feel like there’s a point to doing any of > the things that I used to do anymore.  They don’t bring me the same > kind of joy and satisfaction that they used to.  If there’s anyone out > there that has been through anything like this, and has some advice, > please feel free to share it. > — > Posted via Talkway – http://www.talkway.com > Exchange ideas on practically anything ™.

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Hi and welcome! You did the right thing, and you came to the right place. But then, I’ve been here quite awhile so maybe I am not 100% objective I am sorry that your boyfriend left you the way he did. And it seems that you have put the blame on yourself for his leaving, and started to punish yourself from then on. A downward circle and everything drags you down deeper, been there done that. The good news is, you can change things around and go upward again. To start with, forgive yourself and stop punishing yourself. Take better care of your own person (good food, plenty of rest and exercise, try and have some fun), so that you will feel better. And while you’re at it, stick around this place because there are many people going through the same stuff and we can help each other. And be patient, it may take some time before your message gets to all of the servers, or the replies of people to get to yours. With different time frames most of the internet users should be asleep right now I think but because this is an international system, your message got here just in time for my tea break (at coffee time, but I never drink that stuff). Hugs, Caroline stripgirl heeft geschreven in bericht … :This is my first time doing anything like this, and I hope that maybe :it can help me, if nothing else, then just to vent.  I’m hoping that :maybe somebody out there will have some good advice, because I feel as :if I’m coming to the end of my rapidly fraying rope.  This has been a :very bad year for me.  Around christmas time, my boyfriend of 2 years :left me without an explanation.  Just up and left me.  I found out :later through a friend that he had been seeing someone else.  I took it :pretty hard, and it just led to a snowball of different things.  I lost :my job.  I had a problem with drinking. I lost a lot of my friends. I :feel as if things are getting a little better, but it’s still really :hard for me, because I have no one to talk to, and I feel lonely and :sad all the time.  I don’t feel like there’s a point to doing any of :the things that I used to do anymore.  They don’t bring me the same :kind of joy and satisfaction that they used to.  If there’s anyone out :there that has been through anything like this, and has some advice, :please feel free to share it. :– osted via Talkway – http://www.talkway.com :Exchange ideas on practically anything ™. :

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stripgirl wrote: > This is my first time doing anything like this, and I hope that > maybe it can help me, if nothing else, then just to vent.

Venting do help, at least a little. > I’m hoping that maybe somebody out there will have > some good advice, because I feel as if I’m coming to > the end of my rapidly fraying rope. > This has been a very bad year for me.  Around christmas > time, my boyfriend of 2 years left me without an explanation. > Just up and left me.  I found out later through a friend that > he had been seeing someone else.  I took it pretty hard,

I can imagine, to be left by the one that one loves is very bad, and to know they had an affair makes it even worse. > and it just led to a snowball of different things.  I lost > my job.  I had a problem with drinking. I lost a lot of my > friends. I feel as if things are getting a little better, but it’s > still really hard for me, because I have no one to talk to, > and I feel lonely and sad all the time.  I don’t feel like > there’s a point to doing any of the things that I used to > do anymore.  They don’t bring me the same kind of joy > and satisfaction that they used to.  If there’s anyone out > there that has been through anything like this, and has > some advice, please feel free to share it.

I don’t share the same experience, but something similar. And I do share the feeling of pointlessness. I’m not sure what advice to give, I hope others here might be a little more supportive in that. I just wanted to say there are a lot of people with similar experiences and feelings as yours, hoping that that can give at least a tiny piece of comfort. /Lonely E-mail: a_lonely(a)earthling.net http://www.angelfire.com/wy/lonely

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All familiar feelings ! It’s a good start for you coming here, just venting and getting answers helps. You say that you feel things are getting a little bit better, and I think you may be right. I’ve been alone for only a few weeks less than you, and the good times are getting more, and the bad less That doesn’t mean you won’t get very depressed at times in the future anymore. What about the drinking ? Are you still doing that ? If so, maybe you should ask for professional help about that. Keep posting here, then you never can say that you’ve got no friends at all Hugs, Nanny — Don’t be reckless with other peoples hearts. Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -stripgirl wrote in message … >This is my first time doing anything like this, and I hope that maybe >it can help me, if nothing else, then just to vent.  I’m hoping that >maybe somebody out there will have some good advice, because I feel as >if I’m coming to the end of my rapidly fraying rope.  This has been a >very bad year for me.  Around christmas time, my boyfriend of 2 years >left me without an explanation.  Just up and left me.  I found out >later through a friend that he had been seeing someone else.  I took it >pretty hard, and it just led to a snowball of different things.  I lost >my job.  I had a problem with drinking. I lost a lot of my friends. I >feel as if things are getting a little better, but it’s still really >hard for me, because I have no one to talk to, and I feel lonely and >sad all the time.  I don’t feel like there’s a point to doing any of >the things that I used to do anymore.  They don’t bring me the same >kind of joy and satisfaction that they used to.  If there’s anyone out >there that has been through anything like this, and has some advice, >please feel free to share it. >– >Posted via Talkway – http://www.talkway.com >Exchange ideas on practically anything ™.

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