Depression Learning

Boredom

Question:

Three girls in five months!  That is such a low, low number or approaches!  Have you been lurking long – you probably know what I’m about  Here’s the links anyway http://www.pickupguide.com http://www.fastseduction.com http://www.seduction.com Anyway – start working on your social skills.  Go out and talk to people, see what kind of reaction you get.  Read through the materials on the websites.  This stuff broke me out of my shell. Besides, what else you gonna do, sit around your dorm room, bored out of your mind! Luck man — "Chivalry is dead.  Women killed it."  - Dave Chapelle Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/

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>Anyway, I have no friends. I live with > two guys, and they are even bigger geeks than I am, yet even they have > more of a social life than I do. Even they have started to look down on > me as being a quiet loser. I’ve tried socializing with them in the > past, but I’ve always felt like I was tagging along, and it was like > they didn’t want me to go with them. They were pretty uneventful > experiences anyway, and I hate their friends so damn much. The only > time I ever converse with these guys is when we have to pay the bills > or the rent, or something like that.

To heck with them. >I’ve asked three girls out in the > past five months, and got negative responses each time.

Too soon to generalize – about yourself anyway (possibly about your technique) >The only person > who writes me or calls me is my mom, and even though she is nice and > caring, it’s almost like a slap in the face that the only person who > wants to converse with me is my damn mom, so I don’t treat her as > nicely as I should.

>Anyway, I really don’t have a problem with being > alone, I can accept that. My problem is boredom. It feels like every > day is the same to me. I go to classes, I maybe sit in a computer lab > at school for an hour a day, then I come back to my apt. and watch tv, > then go to sleep, and do the same exact thing the next day. I need some > differentiation in my life.

I totally agree with this.  Every day the same … Yesterday was groundhog day btw (seen the movie?;-)  I go to work for most of the day (blah) – and then come home and eat something usually and waste time on the internet or doing something else – and go to bed and get up and do it again.  Blah!  I’m even getting sick of the weekends.  Except for a few things (which I probably can’t have anyway) I really don’t even know what I want out of life anymore.  Follow the crowd – maybe a social life, maybe a relationship, etc. etc. will help this .. or something .. things like that, things with people have been known to have been pursued before  Yea, I’ll be open enough to concede *maybe*, it would .. >I wish I had spent my childhood learning > how to play the guitar or learning how to skateboard, instead of > wasting my time playing sports, because they are completely useless to > me right now. I’d like to learn how to play the guitar, but it feels > like I’m too old to be trying stuff like that, and I took 6 years of > piano lessons, and I still can’t play the piano a lick, so who knows if > I could teach myself how to play.

You are being too negative >Plus, I don’t really have the money > right now to afford something like that. I sometimes lie awake at > night, because I worry about boredom or what I can do to keep myself > occupied.

Well considering I seem *utterly* incapable of taking my own advice – I’ll give some anyway (it seems so easy when it’s someone else’s problem .  Read a book or something, start learning how to play guitar, etc.  *Don’t* necessarily pursue a social life as a cure for boredom or only pursue it as one part in a many thronged cure for boredom.  A social life may be worth having for it’s own sake – but if you pursue it as a cure for boredom and put a lot of stock in it as the be all and end all that will turn your boring life around and *then* if by chance you aren’t all that sucessful (at first anyway – you’ll just wind up depressed instead of bored (and depression is worse).  I’m speaking from my personal experience. Hmm, I’ve heard boredom is anxiety turned inward – does that help you? Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/

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I’m 20. I’ve never had a g/f, never kissed a girl, and never had sex. I’m not so concerned about the latter, because that is a pesonal thing, and if people want to look at me and make their own generalizations about whether or not I have had sex or not, they can, because they don’t know the truth for sure. Anyway, I have no friends. I live with two guys, and they are even bigger geeks than I am, yet even they have more of a social life than I do. Even they have started to look down on me as being a quiet loser. I’ve tried socializing with them in the past, but I’ve always felt like I was tagging along, and it was like they didn’t want me to go with them. They were pretty uneventful experiences anyway, and I hate their friends so damn much. The only time I ever converse with these guys is when we have to pay the bills or the rent, or something like that. I’ve asked three girls out in the past five months, and got negative responses each time. The only person who writes me or calls me is my mom, and even though she is nice and caring, it’s almost like a slap in the face that the only person who wants to converse with me is my damn mom, so I don’t treat her as nicely as I should. Anyway, I really don’t have a problem with being alone, I can accept that. My problem is boredom. It feels like every day is the same to me. I go to classes, I maybe sit in a computer lab at school for an hour a day, then I come back to my apt. and watch tv, then go to sleep, and do the same exact thing the next day. I need some differentiation in my life. I wish I had spent my childhood learning how to play the guitar or learning how to skateboard, instead of wasting my time playing sports, because they are completely useless to me right now. I’d like to learn how to play the guitar, but it feels like I’m too old to be trying stuff like that, and I took 6 years of piano lessons, and I still can’t play the piano a lick, so who knows if I could teach myself how to play. Plus, I don’t really have the money right now to afford something like that. I sometimes lie awake at night, because I worry about boredom or what I can do to keep myself occupied. Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/

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