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<intelligent stuff snipped I place the bulk of the blame for my depression directly upon myself. If only I were a better person, I would not be depressed. Cookie, you were doing great up until this last sentence — it is a bunch of crap!!!! BIG TIME CRAP!!!!!
gj, I had to laugh here, after the shock of recognition. It sounded just like something I’d say to someone… at first, I thought it *was* me! <g – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I don’t have control over most of it when I am depressed and not on meds. I finally realized that about myself. Now that I am on meds, I’m handling my life much better … not up to my standards yet, but better. It’s not fun yet, but at least I’m functioning most of the time. That’s right, you don’t have control over your depression, so being a "better person" isn’t going to change anything. Just keep taking your meds and be glad that you found something that works for you.
I *am* glad. I am trying not to entertain the notion that meds will help me be perfect. It’s a thing I have … be everything to everyone. Since I was around 10 years old, I’ve made lists of what I have to do to live up to my personal standards (not *now* — I know the list by heart now). Never have been able to do it. That voice in my head just keeps taunting me and I wish it would go away. The meds help keep it at bay. The voice in my head is my voice, of course. I just wish I could keep it from addressing me as "you" (if you were really a good mother, you would do so-and-so") … why can’t I talk to myself in the first person. "I should do, or I will do". It’s like there is a constant conversation going on in my head between me and myself and it drives me nuts. So, now that the meds are doing their job, I just answer back, "so what?". I still think it’s kind of crazy though. I wonder if everyone does this? Cookie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – gj gjalaska at mosquitonet dot com
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i use to blame my ex-husband , jobs , family ., and friends. but i have new friends,a new boyfriend, and no job(by choice) and i still cry the whole day and in my dreams at night. it all hit me today like a boulder . after another fight with the new boyfriend , i lisened to myself and heard the same fight that i would have with my ex-husband. its me all me. how could i ever be happy with out some help. i am scared to go to a doctor to find out if i have depression. i am scared if i don’t that i’ll grow old lonely. i just want to scream.
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i have a question: do you ever blame others for your depression or events in your life? just feeling this way
I take full responsibility for my inaction.Really, it’s all my fault. The design of the Ford Pinto, New Coke, Yahoo Serious…all me. Ed
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Sure. I used to blame my parents for things that happened in my childhood. Then I worked through that and decided it was a waste of time because I couldn’t change it. Other times, I’ve blamed events in my life — had a major crash a few years ago that was definitely related to events in my life at the time (which have since been happily resolved). This latest depression is exacerbated by events in my life. I knew my meds had started working one morning when I started to get mad and blame my husband for how I was feeling, and then suddenly realized that what I was mad about wasn’t even his responsibility — it was mine. I realized then that I have been blaming a lot of how I feel on him. I am seeing things more clearly now. Those meds are really working! 
I place the bulk of the blame for my depression directly upon myself. If only I were a better person, I would not be depressed. I don’t have control over most of it when I am depressed and not on meds. I finally realized that about myself. Now that I am on meds, I’m handling my life much better … not up to my standards yet, but better. It’s not fun yet, but at least I’m functioning most of the time. Cookie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – i have a question: do you ever blame others for your depression or events in your life? just feeling this way
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i have a question: do you ever blame others for your depression or events in your life? just feeling this way
nope, always blame myself it’s easy, i’m always here — Silver Thorn "A thorn in my own side"
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i have a question: do you ever blame others for your depression or events in your life? just feeling this way
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i have a question: do you ever blame others for your depression or events in your life? just feeling this way
I used to, especially my ex husband. I still believe he added to my depression but he didn’t cause it and it isn’t his fault. If I did inherit it, which can’t be found, I still don’t blame my parnets or relatives. I have had some bad things happen to me but again, I dealt with those things. Then again, I did deal with all of the bad things in my life that happened to me, aceepted my illness as a part of me, forgave my ex for his role in adding to things, and I don;t have the problems with my depression like i used to… something to think about. Mary Beth
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