Another Long Corny Rambling Thing
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There’s always another sunset. I think that one of the best things that can happen to people is to have a depression. It’s a signal that you need to look at your life and wonder why it’s out of tune. The worst thing that you can do is avoid realizing that you are depressed and not dealing with some things that need to be dealt with. The most important thing you can do is take charge of your own life. One of the most important things you can do is sing your own song. In Frank Sinatra’s Playboy Interview years ago he said, "I don’t know what other singers feel when they articulate lyrics, but being an 18-karat manic-depressive and having lived a life of violent emotional contra- dictions, I have an overacute capacity for sadness as well as elation. I know what the cat who wrote the song is trying to say. I’ve been there-and back. I guess the audience feels it along with me. They can’t help it. Sentimentality, after all, is an emotion common to all humanity." If people don’t like what you sing, what you write, what you’re trying to be, keep holding on. There’s always another sunset. Don’t live the life that your parents, your spouse, your friends, no matter how well-meaning, choose for you. It’s your life and no matter what, you know in your heart what’s best for you. What kind of life is it when you’re just living for everyone else’s approval, but ignoring what you need to do? Something else to think about is that what some people describe as goofing off or daydreaming is important. Caught up in a society of "doing" all the time can squelch the need that people have for play. It’s important to have that window to look out of, a hammock to drift off in. I bet a lot of the great ideas from the beginning of time have been cooked up when people were just laying around, goofing off, what some would consider a waste of time. Don’t let other people diddle with your dreams. Forget about it if people think you’re corny. Forget about it if you make mistakes. Forget about it if you don’t fall into the category of being smart based on IQ tests. But here are some things that I think we could concentrate on more. Love, compassion, curiosity, imagination. Those things need to be practiced, cultivated, encouraged. Here’s something else from Sinatra’s Playboy interview that I liked so I’m typing it too. It’s what I think of when I think of the Internet and what it could be. Maybe it’s too late but I don’t think so, or I wouldn’t keep doing what I try to do. Frank said, "I’m never cynical, never without optimism about the future. The history of mankind proves that at some point the people have their innings, and I think we’re about to come up to bat now. I think we can make it if we live and let live. And love one another-I mean really love. If you don’t know the guy on the other side of the world love him anyway because he’s just like you. He has the same dreams, the same hopes and fears. It’s one world, pal. We’re all neighbors. But didn’t somebody once go up onto a mountain long ago and say the same thing to the world?" I’ve been doing the Usenet thing for a long time now and no matter what, I’ve kept going. I’m proud of some things I’ve posted not so proud of others. But my writing has gotten better(maybe not this) and even if there are only a couple of things that I can look at and think "Well that makes it worth it" then that’s enough for me. If some people don’t get it, I can’t do anything about it. I just hope that if people finally do find their way here, that they will try to add something instead of just watching. I guess that’s what I’ve tried to do these years. It’s been very hard to put myself out there but I have and I wouldn’t change a thing. I know there are a lot of assholes but I keep on trying anyway. Flame me for being corny, but that’s what I am. Corny, sentimental and always hopeful that no matter how much crap is floating around, no matter how much we’re bombarded with Netscape woes and Microsoft crap and Bill Gates and politicians and rightwingers, leftwingers, libertarians, that the little guy will feel like he’s getting his inning. Someone wrote once that righteous indignation is the best medicine for societal depression. And I believe that. Get out there and do something and try to make a change. For those people who think that the Internet is all about money, I’d just like to say that I still like thinking that it’s really about so much more than that. Anyway, I thought this was a group to *support*. And that’s what I’m trying to do with this post. If I get kicked off my ISP for this because it’s too long or it’s too corny or whatever the problem is now, it’s not going to get me down either. There’s not one bad word in it either. You had me from hello. ~Dorothy Boyd in Jerry Maguire
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Kind of an interesting article. Who wrote it?? What do you think of it?? Where did you find it?? Why did you post it. Just the usual Who What Where Whys……
I wrote it. And I posted it because I felt like it. You had me from hello. ~Dorothy Boyd in Jerry Maguire
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I think that one of the best things that can happen to people is to have a depression. It’s a signal that you need to look at your life and wonder why it’s out of tune. The worst thing that you can do is avoid realizing that you are depressed and not dealing with some things that need to be dealt with. The most important thing you can do is take charge of your own life. -SNIP- Anyway, I thought this was a group to *support*. And that’s what I’m trying to do with this post. If I get kicked off my ISP for this because it’s too long or it’s too corny or whatever the problem is now, it’s not going to get me down either. There’s not one bad word in it either. You had me from hello. ~Dorothy Boyd in Jerry Maguire
Kind of an interesting article. Who wrote it?? What do you think of it?? Where did you find it?? Why did you post it. Just the usual Who What Where Whys…… Sincerely Stewart — The Metaphor Man *and* The Great Defender of the Self Please e-mail me a copy of your response if you can so I don’t miss it.
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There’s always another sunset. <snip nice-but-not-corny post I try to make an effort not to write too many 1 or 2 line posts (unless I’m being silly), but I’ve been a little wrung out the past few days, so forgive me for my brevity here.
I’m sorry you’ve been wrung out. I liked your post, it was wonderfully expressed, and those Sinatra quotes we’re really interesting to me. I love his music, but only saw the worst side of the man and dismissed him as a person. Reading those quotes, my perspective has shifted a bit, and reminded me, once again — people are more than what we think of them, or what we see.
I know what you mean about Sinatra. But I admire someone who’s got a little ying to go with his yang. Try as I might there’s just something irresistible about a guy who has this to say about Rona Barrett, "Congress should give Rona Barrett’s husband a medal just for waking up beside her and having to look at her.. She’s so ugly that her mother had to tie a pork chop around her neck just to get the dog to play with her.. What can you say about her that hasn’t already been said about (pause) leprosy…" Thanks for the cool post.
Well thanks very much. I’m really stupefied anyone noticed and thought it was good. Maybe I’m better at this writing thing than I thought! 
Yet why not say what happened? — Robert Lowell
I was just wondering about this quote? Is this the same Robert Lowell who was the tenor in the movie My Wild Irish Rose with Igor Dega? You had me from hello. ~Dorothy Boyd in Jerry Maguire
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There’s always another sunset.
<snip nice-but-not-corny post I try to make an effort not to write too many 1 or 2 line posts (unless I’m being silly), but I’ve been a little wrung out the past few days, so forgive me for my brevity here. I liked your post, it was wonderfully expressed, and those Sinatra quotes we’re really interesting to me. I love his music, but only saw the worst side of the man and dismissed him as a person. Reading those quotes, my perspective has shifted a bit, and reminded me, once again — people are more than what we think of them, or what we see. Thanks for the cool post. Minx posted & emailed — Yet why not say what happened? — Robert Lowell
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That sounds like something Fernando Montalban would say. Do you mean Fernando Lamas or Ricardo Montalban?
<burps a deep, satisfying belch Fernando Lamath You had me from hello. ~Dorothy Boyd in Jerry Maguire
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That sounds like something Fernando Montalban would say.
Do you mean Fernando Lamas or Ricardo Montalban? Nik Home Page – http://members.aol.com/niknik7/main.html
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Maybe I’m better at this writing thing than I thought! Your writing is fab! <big happy smile I’m not sure what fab means. <little embarrassed laugh Does it mean stylish and swell? It means FABulous, darling!
I don’t want it to sound "Fabulous" darling That sounds like something Fernando Montalban would say. I want it to sound stylish, clean, tight, smooth, fine and swell. You had me from hello. ~Dorothy Boyd in Jerry Maguire
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I don’t want it to sound "Fabulous" darling That sounds like something Fernando Montalban would say. I want it to sound stylish, clean, tight, smooth, fine and swell.
that too — Yet why not say what happened? — Robert Lowell
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Maybe I’m better at this writing thing than I thought! Your writing is fab! <big happy smile I’m not sure what fab means. <little embarrassed laugh Does it mean stylish and swell?
It means FABulous, darling! — Yet why not say what happened? — Robert Lowell
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Maybe I’m better at this writing thing than I thought! Your writing is fab!
<big happy smile I’m not sure what fab means. <little embarrassed laugh Does it mean stylish and swell? You had me from hello. ~Dorothy Boyd in Jerry Maguire
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I know what you mean about Sinatra. But I admire someone who’s got a little ying to go with his yang. Try as I might there’s just something irresistible about a guy who has this to say about Rona Barrett, "Congress should give Rona Barrett’s husband a medal just for waking up beside her and having to look at her.. She’s so ugly that her mother had to tie a pork chop around her neck just to get the dog to play with her.. What can you say about her that hasn’t already been said about (pause) leprosy…"
Good lord! I have to admit, as far as insults go, that one is choice….why Rona Barrett, though? So wierd! Well thanks very much. I’m really stupefied anyone noticed and thought it was good. Maybe I’m better at this writing thing than I thought!
Your writing is fab! Yet why not say what happened? — Robert Lowell I was just wondering about this quote? Is this the same Robert Lowell who was the tenor in the movie My Wild Irish Rose with Igor Dega?
I haven’t seen that movie, but chances are, probably not….Lowell is a writer. I’ve only read his poetry, but I think he’s amazing. — Yet why not say what happened? — Robert Lowell
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