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TO ALL OF ASD: I just want to apologize for threatening to leave the ng. It was a childish thing to do. Just becaue one person was thoughtless doesn’t mean anything changes with regard to the rest of you guys. I love you guys and was being impulsive cuz I was mad and hurt. As for the rest of what I said, I don’t apologize and I won’t take it back. Thank you to all who emailed me support, it helped to know I wasn’t the only one who thought this was out of line (as well as being out of character for Lady A/ which is part of why it hurt so much. If it had been a troll attacking me I would have blown it off, but from a usually supportive regular member of asd it really made me stop and think I had done something wrong by having a couple of hours pain free, Like you know when your mom used to say, well, if you feel well enough to watch tv, you’re well enough to go to school cuz she KNEW oyu were faking. It made me feel like that little girl trying to get away with something when that wasn’t the situation at all. Anyway, there is one part of my reply that I’d kinda like to re-iterate, and feel free to quote me on this, cuz reading it over I feel that it’s a good explanation of validation of illnesses, feelings, and depression: [edited slightly to shorten] – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -So because I’m in pain I can’t have fun??? I slipped my discs a month ago  I’ve been going to physical therapy, and have gotten to the point where I can sit down for two hours at a time *IF* I take my pain medications (Darvocet, and lots of it) So, yes, I *can* go see a movie  but that doesn’t mean I’m not in pain and it doesn’t mean I can sit for 8 hours at a desk and do work that takes being clearminded to do. I am trying to get out of the house a little because I’ve been flat on my back for over a month now and IM BORED. Just like when your depression breaks for a day for the first time in months and you get out to do some errands and run into a "friend" who then goes home or to work and tells everyone else you know "I saw ….. out at the mall today. She’s not really sick, she looked fine to me. She should get her lazy conniving ass back to work and quit faking it." Just cuz you have a reprieve from the pain for a couple of hours and decide to take advantage of that reprieve for a little while does NOT mean you weren’t really hurting before or that it won’t come back.

That’s all I have to say about this. It’s over and done. I still would like an appology, but either way, I’m finished dealing with this situation. I’m not wasting my precious bit of energy on stupidity like this. I have better things to do. (Like lay flat on my back bored out of my mind, for one……  :P Aim "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." – Eleanor Roosevelt

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Gee, just two days ago you we begging for money from each of us because you were getting evicted as well as you were going to lose your car

BEGGED. I asked for advice on what to do, because I was feeling depressed and helpless. Hmmmm… have you never felt that way???!!  I KNOW FULL WELL THAT ASD IS NOT A MNEY SOURCE OK? ESPECIALLY CONSIDERING I’VE BEEN HERE WELL OVER A YEAR NOW, REGULARLY. Just because two people offered financial help does NOT mean I asked for it. In fact, I told one of them that IF he sent me money I’d pay it back as soon as I got my check from worker’s comp. And the other person saw my later post saying I thought i had straightened it out because the support from asd had made me feel like I COULD do something about this and I called Labor and Industries and got them moving on cutting me the check for my back pay. "I just got an eviction notice. I owe over $1000 by August 31 in rent, and $900 on my car so it won’t be repo’d."). Funny how you neglected to mention that you have 2 roommates –

Actually, I have three roommates. What do they have to do with anything? This is University owned housing. It’s cheaper than anything else because it’s for students. We do not split up a total rent like most aparetments. We each have our own room which is paid separately to the school, just like a dorm. It is, however, like a regular apartment in that it’s month to month rent and not covered by financial aid. Maybe I neglected to explain all of this. Maybe it just *might* have been because I was upset and not thinking details at the time. Maybe it was because I didn’t think that it made any difference. They do not and can not have any bearing on my situation. Like I said, we each have our own rental agreements, as if we each had our own apartment. We just share a kitchen. It certainly was NOT an attempt to deceive anyone, which I’m sure you’ll see if you go back and read my original post where I asked for *advice* and *a place to vent my You also said and I quote "I slipped not one but two discs in my back at work and can’t even sit long enough to work a desk job, much less anything else".  Hummm… now here you are going to two movies and an air show.

So because I’m in pain I can’t have fun??? I slipped my discs a month ago (which weas also in that post, along with *many* others over the last month.) I’ve been gpoing to physical therapy, and have gotten to the point where I can sit down for two hours at a time *IF* I take my pain medications (Darvocet, and lots of it) So, yes, I *can* go see a movie (for which my brother and roommates paid, not that it’s anyone’s business) but that doesn’t mean I’m not in pain and it doesn’t mean I can sit for 8 hours at a desk and do work that takes beinmg clearminded to do. I am trying to get out of the house a little because I’ve been flat on my back for over a month now and IM BORED. Is that ok with you? My doctor has said I can start to increase activity a LITTLE BIT. That doesn’t mean I’m healed. As a matter of fact, I haqd my MRI this morning and may still be facing surgery, but no, I’m not really hurt, I’m just faking it for attention and money. Just like when your depression breaks for a day for the first time oin months and ytou get out to do some errands and run into a "friend" who then goes home or to work and tells everyone else you know "I saw ….. out at the mall today. She’s not really sick, she looked fine to me. She should get her lazy conniving ass back to work and quit faking it." Just cuz you have a reprieve from the pain for a couple of hours and decide to take advantage of that reprieve for a little while does NOT mean you weren’t really hurting before or that it won’t come back. Not that you care or anything, but I DID pay for going to that movie last night. Today I am in pain and had to take quite a bit of medication in order to be able to do some of the thijngs I had to get done today, like the MRI. And the airshow is a whopping 20 minutes ands almost next door to my house. We were going to go in the car to a park and watch it, not that it’s anyone’s business *HOW* I’m managing to do a couple of things to get some fresh air FOR THE FIRST TIME IN A MONTH! Yes, I AM yelling, I DO NOT like being accused of manipulating people or lying for any reason. I am probabkly the most honest person you will ever meet, and I PRIDE myself in that. I have my integrity evben when I have nothing else. How DARE you question it? HOW DARE YOU ASSUME before asking what the deal really is!!!! This could have been explained via email, quite civilly, had you not come out and attacked me on the ng. I guess the pain was not as servere as you made it out to be, nor is your financial situation.  I now feel like I was nothing more then a pawn in a game… and I am kind-a sorry I devoted so much time to your post.

Yeah, I’m just a liar and a cheat. You gottit. And you’re not depressed, just looking for sypmathy right? I think you owe me an apology. We’ll see if I can manage to accept it at this point I am so hurt I don’t know what to do. Two hours out after a month of pure hell, and everything I’ve been through is totally invalidated because I tried to share a tiny bit of good news with my "friends" here. Forget it. I don’t need this place. I can get this kind of shit in RL, I don’t need a support group to cause me more pain than I already have to deal with. A.  <——crushed "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." – Eleanor Roosevelt

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My roommates and I went to see "Conspiracy Theory" tonight. It was GREAT!!!!! I haven’t seen a movie that good in along time. It was suspenseful but had constant comedy relief so it wasn’ too intense. It was a good escape for almost three hours. Well worth $7!!! I highly recommend it to any of you who need to get away from your thoughts for a few hours. Gonna see "Picture Perfect’ tomorrow for a matinee. I love my roommates. They’re sooooo good at getting me out of the house and distracted. On Sunday we’re going to the Hydroplane races and see the Blue Angels too. Bah. Goodnight. I love you all, every one of you. Gee, just two days ago you we begging for money from each of us because you were getting evicted as well as you were going to lose your car ("I just got an eviction notice. I owe over $1000 by August 31 in rent, and $900 on my car so it won’t be repo’d."). Funny how you neglected to mention that you have 2 roommates – You also said and I quote "I slipped not one but two discs in my back at work and can’t even sit long enough to work a desk job, much less anything else".  Hummm… now here you are going to two movies, the hydroplane races AND an air show.   I guess the pain was not as servere as you made it out to be, nor is your financial situation.   I now feel like I was nothing more then a pawn in a game… and I am kind-a sorry I devoted so much time to your post. Lady A/

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My roommates and I went to see "Conspiracy Theory" tonight. It was GREAT!!!!! I haven’t seen a movie that good in along time. It was suspenseful but had constant comedy relief so it wasn’ too intense. It was a good escape for almost three hours. Well worth $7!!! I highly recommend it to any of you who need to get away from your thoughts for a few hours. Gonna see "Picture Perfect’ tomorrow for a matinee. I love my roommates. They’re sooooo good at getting me out of the house and distracted. On Sunday we’re going to the Hydroplane races and see the Blue Angels too. Bah. Goodnight. I love you all, every one of you.

Gee, just two days ago you we begging for money from each of us because you were getting evicted as well as you were going to lose your car ("I just got an eviction notice. I owe over $1000 by August 31 in rent, and $900 on my car so it won’t be repo’d."). Funny how you neglected to mention that you have 2 roommates – You also said and I quote "I slipped not one but two discs in my back at work and can’t even sit long enough to work a desk job, much less anything else".  Hummm… now here you are going to two movies and an air show.  I guess the pain was not as servere as you made it out to be, nor is your financial situation.  I now feel like I was nothing more then a pawn in a game… and I am kind-a sorry I devoted so much time to your post. Lady A/

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 <snips Good quote from Leno tonight: "A Chihuahua…what is that? That’s NOT a dog, it’s a RAT on CRACK is what it is…" (just heard that and it made me LOL — my roommates must think I’ m completely insane laughing all by myself in my room with the door shut.)

  ……That’s a good one…my neighbor used ot have this dog..it had these attacks…if you touched it the wrong way it would start spinning around and around..some kind if disease…as much as i feel bad for the poor dog it was damm funny to see…it looked like it was on crack…. Bah. Goodnight. I love you all, every one of you.

Aim "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." – Eleanor Roosevelt

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My roommates and I went to see "Conspiracy Theory" tonight. It was GREAT!!!!! I haven’t seen a movie that good in along time. It was suspenseful but had constant comedy relief so it wasn’ too intense. It was a good escape for almost three hours. Well worth $7!!! I highly recommend it to any of you who need to get away from your thoughts for a few hours. Gonna see "Picture Perfect’ tomorrow for a matinee. I love my roommates. They’re sooooo good at getting me out of the house and distracted. On Sunday we’re going to the Hydroplane races and see the Blue Angels too. This is gonna be the first fun weekend I’ve had in months since I’ve been hurt. I’m starting to feel alot better physically too. I have my MRI tomorrow morning to confirm that I have a slipped disc. They’re pretty sure I have two, not just one. Leave it to me to be original.   :/ Good quote from Leno tonight: "A Chihuahua…what is that? That’s NOT a dog, it’s a RAT on CRACK is what it is…" (just heard that and it made me LOL — my roommates must think I’ m completely insane laughing all by myself in my room with the door shut.) Bah. Goodnight. I love you all, every one of you. Aim "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." – Eleanor Roosevelt

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Amy, Just wanted to add my support.  I too have had sustained bouts with illness that was not visible (inflamed bowel, depression, back injury from head-on collision).  I too have been hurt by insensitive comments.   Some people should listen to that old cliche "Don’t judge someone ’till you’ve walked a mile in his/her shoes."  Ill people may not manifest symptoms 24 hrs a day, but the situation is between the sick person, his/her doctor, his/her boss (in some cases), and his/her immediate family.   It is nobody else’s business to judge–not co-workers, not friends, not in-laws, siblings, and ESPECIALLY not strangers or casual acquaintances. It disturbs me very much when I see people finger-pointing at those who are not working (or are taking sick leave) for medical reasons.  Of course employers or U.I. officers have the right to ask for a doc’s note, but nobody else should stick their nose in.  What kind of world is it where we make people feel guilty about being ill??  Or judge others with paltry information about their condition.  Times are tough, sure, but they’re going to get a lot worse if this fascist national attitude continues of blaming people for their troubles.  Uh oh–I can feel a political rant coming on.  Better stop now…. Snapdragon

: TO ALL OF ASD: : I just want to apologize for threatening to leave the ng. It was a : childish thing to do. Just becaue one person was thoughtless doesn’t : mean anything changes with regard to the rest of you guys. I love you : guys and was being impulsive cuz I was mad and hurt. : As for the rest of what I said, I don’t apologize and I won’t take it : back. Thank you to all who emailed me support, it helped to know I : wasn’t the only one who thought this was out of line (as well as being : out of character for Lady A/ which is part of why it hurt so much. If : it had been a troll attacking me I would have blown it off, but from : a usually supportive regular member of asd it really made me stop and : think I had done something wrong by having a couple of hours pain : free, Like you know when your mom used to say, well, if you feel well : enough to watch tv, you’re well enough to go to school cuz she KNEW : oyu were faking. It made me feel like that little girl trying to get : away with something when that wasn’t the situation at all. : Anyway, there is one part of my reply that I’d kinda like to : re-iterate, and feel free to quote me on this, cuz reading it over I : feel that it’s a good explanation of validation of illnesses, : feelings, and depression: [edited slightly to shorten] : So because I’m in pain I can’t have fun??? I slipped my discs a month : ago  I’ve been going to physical therapy, and have gotten to : the point where I can sit down for two hours at a time *IF* I take my : pain medications (Darvocet, and lots of it) So, yes, I *can* go see a : movie  but that doesn’t mean I’m not in pain and it doesn’t mean I : can sit for 8 hours at a desk and do work that takes being : clearminded to do. I am trying to get out of the house a little : because I’ve been flat on my back for over a month now and IM BORED. : : Just like when your depression breaks for a day for the first time in : months and you get out to do some errands and run into a "friend" who : then goes home or to work and tells everyone else you know "I saw : ….. out at the mall today. She’s not really sick, she looked fine : to me. She should get her lazy conniving ass back to work and quit : faking it." Just cuz you have a reprieve from the pain for a couple of : hours and decide to take advantage of that reprieve for a little while : does NOT mean you weren’t really hurting before or that it won’t come : back. : That’s all I have to say about this. It’s over and done. I still would : like an appology, but either way, I’m finished dealing with this : situation. I’m not wasting my precious bit of energy on stupidity like : this. I have better things to do. (Like lay flat on my back bored out : of my mind, for one……  :P : Aim : "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." : – Eleanor Roosevelt

Response:

- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My roommates and I went to see "Conspiracy Theory" tonight. It was GREAT!!!!! I haven’t seen a movie that good in along time. It was suspenseful but had constant comedy relief so it wasn’ too intense. It was a good escape for almost three hours. Well worth $7!!! I highly recommend it to any of you who need to get away from your thoughts for a few hours. Gonna see "Picture Perfect’ tomorrow for a matinee. I love my roommates. They’re sooooo good at getting me out of the house and distracted. On Sunday we’re going to the Hydroplane races and see the Blue Angels too. Bah. Goodnight. I love you all, every one of you. Gee, just two days ago you we begging for money from each of us because you were getting evicted as well as you were going to lose your car ("I just got an eviction notice. I owe over $1000 by August 31 in rent, and $900 on my car so it won’t be repo’d."). Funny how you neglected to mention that you have 2 roommates – You also said and I quote "I slipped not one but two discs in my back at work and can’t even sit long enough to work a desk job, much less anything else".  Hummm… now here you are going to two movies, the hydroplane races AND an air show.   I guess the pain was not as servere as you made it out to be, nor is your financial situation.   I now feel like I was nothing more then a pawn in a game… and I am kind-a sorry I devoted so much time to your post. Lady A/

Just because you are in a bad mood do you have to take it out on everyone else?  Must be contagious because now I feel like swearing my arse off and really telling you what I think about some of the posts you have posted recently …  the world doesn’t revolve around any of us… attacking people just because you’re in a bad mood pisses me right off… Mirm Should I feel guilty for posting this?  grrrr… <<<<LADY A/ Hope the bad mood passes. — For more information about this service, send e-mail to:

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oh, for crying out loud. ((((((((((((((aim)))))))))))) lady a’s post was unwarranted and cold. amy, i’m glad you had fun at your movie. certainly you didn’t ask for money, and your constructively asking for solutions certainly didn’t warrant an audit of your complete finances. like the seven dollars is really going to make a huge difference in the end, and like she’s really better off sitting at home feeling like shit. nicole

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