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Question:

The time has come for me to go back into lurker mode. I will not be posting but sporadically after tonight.

I’m really sorry to hear this, I will miss you very much. I have several reasons for this action: 1. My wife and I intend to devote more time to each other rather than to the Internet. It’s been a blast, but now it’s the past.

This is a good reason. 2. My new job with the phone company means more demands on my time, but at the same time allows me social interaction with others. I intend to take advantage of that opportunity. We will be having a big beach bash in about a month and I need to get in shape to play on the V-Ball team.

Hey good luck with the new job, that’s great news. 3. My depression has recessed to the point that I can focus on other things then posting here. My thanks to all of you who have responded to my posts in the past. You’ve all been a big help.

This is even better news, I’m so happy for you. 4. Quite frankly, after the non-reaction I got when I tried to help RC campaign for our rights to proper treatment, made me decide that there are other groups where my time can be better spent, with people who WANT help. I know Claudia shares my feelings about this. We are only here for a short period of time on this orb. I do not intend to waste another minute helping those who would rather wallow in self pity.

wow, I’m sorry to hear about this, I think what you all were doing was a wonderful thing. 5. After realizing just how much spoilering I need to do, when I get angry, because someone might get triggered, I realize that I cannot post here and say what I truly feel. If you all are that sensitive, how the hell do you get dressed in the morning? So go ahead, call me the big bad meanie. I don’t care. I’m 45 years old, and if I need to say something, I need to say it without worrying if I hurt someone’s feelings.

I’ll have to agree with you here, it was something I had to get used to at first.  I can see maybe certain things but everyday life events I don’t.  Let’s face it everone has a different thing that might upset them to hear about, if we had to spoiler it all we would have everything spoilered. As we go through life, believe me, others do not give a shit whether they hurt our feelings. They don’t say "XXXX, if you don’t like what I have to say because it’s bad news then don’t listen" They don’t spoiler their conversation when they fire you, break up with you, or evict you for non-payment of the rent. This is supposed to be an extension of real life. If so, then why shoudn’t we be able to speak freely without spoilering?

Hmmmmmm… I wonder it you could sue someone for triggering you, you know that will be the next set of law suits.  "Those words make me suicidal… I’m suing for punitive damages!!!!" When I saw that Claudia had to spoiler a post for napster because some lame ass namby pamby was getting "triggered", I realized that you all have NO concept of real life. Go ahead, the next time you get stopped by a traffic cop for breaking a traffic law, tell him you want him not to say he’s gonna give you a ticket, because you’re afraid it will "trigger" you. Go ahead. I dare you. He’ll laugh and write you the ticket anyways, if he doesn’t haul you off to the local hospital.

Oh wow, I must have missed that one, but I will add in here for some reason I haven’t been getting your and Claudia’s posts, this damn Remarq doesn’t post certain peoples posts, the only reason I see it is if someone else puts it in there response. Very frustrating, so if you reply to this you’ll have to e-mail it with the msn address or I won’t get it. Some of you will flame me for this. Be my guest. I wrote this, no one else did. Therefore I am responsible for any consequences that may occur, for my words. I can accept that and take responsibility for my actions. Can you?

Larry I’m really sorry to see you go, you’ve been so nice to me with your kind posts and I’ll miss that compassion you’ve showed to so many here.  You’re a real stand up guy and you will be missed.  BTW did you get that attachment I tried to send you, sorry about the first try. Take care my friend, you’ll be missed. Kait Adios, Larry M. Dinkoff 02/27/2000 10:30 PM EST

Kait "Ok, I may be a bad dog, but I’m not Evil!" * Sent from RemarQ http://www.remarq.com The Internet’s Discussion Network * The fastest and easiest way to search and participate in Usenet – Free!

Response:

1. My wife and I intend to devote more time to each other rather than to the Internet. It’s been a blast, but now it’s the past.

Are you trying to tell me your wife and marriage is more important then ASD? HUMPF. 2. My new job with the phone company means more demands on my time,

Maybe you should quit if it’s interfering. but at the same time allows me social interaction with others. I intend to take advantage of that opportunity.

I bet they’re no where near as nice as us. We will be having a big beach bash in about a month and I need to get in shape to play on the V-Ball team.

Did you need me to bring the chips? 3. My depression has recessed to the point that I can focus on other things then posting here.

Then go ahead and post it cause I’m sick of hearing about depression. My thanks to all of you who have responded to my posts in the past. You’ve all been a big help.

Wham bam thank you maam. I do not intend to waste another minute helping those who would rather wallow in self pity.

I do not wallow. Swallow, but not wallow. <blush If you all are that sensitive, how the hell do you get dressed in the morning?

I don’t. I stay naked all day. So go ahead, call me the big bad meanie.

BIG BAD MEANIE!   <stick tongue out here I don’t care. I’m 45 years old,

Wow, you’re pretty old. They don’t spoiler their conversation when they fire you, break up with you, or evict you for non-payment of the rent.

They should. People can be SOOO rude. I realized that you all have NO concept of real life.

I’m with you so far but don’t ruin it by generalizing, eg. "you ALL." Go ahead, the next time you get stopped by a traffic cop for breaking a traffic law, tell him you want him not to say he’s gonna give you a ticket, because you’re afraid it will "trigger" you.

Hey, I haven’t tried that one yet. Maybe it will work. I don’t want to have to go to driving school again, I’ve already been there 4 times. Go ahead. I dare you.

God I love dares. Therefore I am responsible for any consequences that may occur, for my words.

Consequences? Can I spank you? I can accept that and take responsibility for my actions. Can you? Adios, Larry M. Dinkoff

Absolutely hon, absolutely. Good luck, Mary Beth p’ed and e’d

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I haven’t talked to you before, you haven’t offended me at all…i wish you well in your life. ~Lady Angela

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – The time has come for me to go back into lurker mode. I will not be posting but sporadically after tonight. I have several reasons for this action: 1. My wife and I intend to devote more time to each other rather than to the Internet. It’s been a blast, but now it’s the past. 2. My new job with the phone company means more demands on my time, but at the same time allows me social interaction with others. I intend to take advantage of that opportunity. We will be having a big beach bash in about a month and I need to get in shape to play on the V-Ball team. 3. My depression has recessed to the point that I can focus on other things then posting here. My thanks to all of you who have responded to my posts in the past. You’ve all been a big help. 4. Quite frankly, after the non-reaction I got when I tried to help RC campaign for our rights to proper treatment, made me decide that there are other groups where my time can be better spent, with people who WANT help. I know Claudia shares my feelings about this. We are only here for a short period of time on this orb. I do not intend to waste another minute helping those who would rather wallow in self pity. 5. After realizing just how much spoilering I need to do, when I get angry, because someone might get triggered, I realize that I cannot post here and say what I truly feel. If you all are that sensitive, how the hell do you get dressed in the morning? So go ahead, call me the big bad meanie. I don’t care. I’m 45 years old, and if I need to say something, I need to say it without worrying if I hurt someone’s feelings. As we go through life, believe me, others do not give a shit whether they hurt our feelings. They don’t say "XXXX, if you don’t like what I have to say because it’s bad news then don’t listen" They don’t spoiler their conversation when they fire you, break up with you, or evict you for non-payment of the rent. This is supposed to be an extension of real life. If so, then why shoudn’t we be able to speak freely without spoilering? When I saw that Claudia had to spoiler a post for napster because some lame ass namby pamby was getting "triggered", I realized that you all have NO concept of real life. Go ahead, the next time you get stopped by a traffic cop for breaking a traffic law, tell him you want him not to say he’s gonna give you a ticket, because you’re afraid it will "trigger" you. Go ahead. I dare you. He’ll laugh and write you the ticket anyways, if he doesn’t haul you off to the local hospital. Some of you will flame me for this. Be my guest. I wrote this, no one else did. Therefore I am responsible for any consequences that may occur, for my words. I can accept that and take responsibility for my actions. Can you? Adios, Larry M. Dinkoff 02/27/2000 10:30 PM EST

Response:

1. My wife and I intend to devote more time to each other rather than to the Internet. It’s been a blast, but now it’s the past.

well, that’s probably a good idea.  sometimes the structure of things needs to be checked for damage that can be repaired… 3. My depression has recessed to the point that I can focus on other things then posting here. My thanks to all of you who have responded to my posts in the past. You’ve all been a big help.

I’m glad it’s in recession. 4. Quite frankly, after the non-reaction I got when I tried to help RC campaign for our rights to proper treatment, made me decide that there are other groups where my time can be better spent, with people who WANT help. I know Claudia shares my feelings about this. We are only here for a short period of time on this orb. I do not intend to waste another minute helping those who would rather wallow in self pity.

not *everyone* on ASD was in the relevant country for what you were doing to be really anything about us.  so I ignored it, because I didn’t understand it and wasn’t going to be effected by it anyway. and some people were busy, others just too depressed to be able to do anything.  And yes, some just couldn’t be bothered.  that’s just the way of things, though, so don’t take it personally. 5. After realizing just how much spoilering I need to do, when I get angry, because someone might get triggered, I realize that I cannot post here and say what I truly feel. If you all are that sensitive, how the hell do you get dressed in the morning?

I wonder that every day.  I wonder why I bother to get dressed. As we go through life, believe me, others do not give a shit whether they hurt our feelings.

some people do. the ones I chose to spend time with do. They don’t say "XXXX, if you don’t like what I have to say because it’s bad news then don’t listen" They don’t spoiler their conversation when they fire you, break up with you, or evict you for non-payment of the rent. This is supposed to be an extension of real life. If so, then why shoudn’t we be able to speak freely without spoilering?

because here at least we could avoid those things.  we have to deal with them when they come up in our lives, but if we have a choice why should we have to deal with it?  there are things which hurt me, and any time I can avoid that hurt so much the better for me – but I also accept that in my life i sometimes have to face those things. When I saw that Claudia had to spoiler a post for napster because some lame ass namby pamby was getting "triggered", I realized that you all have NO concept of real life.

Larry, I understand that you’re angry or whatever, and that you don’t "agree" with it, but is calling someone "a lame ass namby pamby" really necessary?  why call someone names? Some of you will flame me for this. Be my guest. I wrote this, no one else did.

no flames.  I can’t handle them.  here *or* IRL. Therefore I am responsible for any consequences that may occur, for my words. I can accept that and take responsibility for my actions. Can you?

well, I certainly wouldn’t expect anyone else to take responsibility for my actions.  that would be pointless. — Laz Spashett       "damaged people are dangerous, they know they can survive" "I can categorically say that you are not a bigger banana head." (Empire Records) * Please visit European Relief Aid and help our work with Romanian children * *                   http://www.gwenhwys.demon.co.uk/era/                    *

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Wishing you & Claudia all the best. Keep the faith! Y’all have been more helpful to me than you may realize. Catch you on the flipside. James p’d, e’d "Vision is both revelation and revolution. It is the call AND the response." — James Benjamin (2000) http://www.geocities.com/the_bokononist/

Response:

The time has come for me to go back into lurker mode. I will not be posting but sporadically after tonight. I have several reasons for this action:

-snipped 3 good reasons to leave ASD- 4. Quite frankly, after the non-reaction I got when I tried to help RC campaign for our rights to proper treatment, made me decide that there are other groups where my time can be better spent, with people who WANT help. I know Claudia shares my feelings about this. We are only here for a short period of time on this orb. I do not intend to waste another minute helping those who would rather wallow in self pity.

   I am glad you are going to do other things you feel will be more beneficial for you, and I hope that you come back once in a while to tell us how things are going with you.  But WRT your insulting me personally here with your last sentance.  Don’t let the door hit you in the ass on your way out jerk. 5. After realizing just how much spoilering I need to do, when I get angry, because someone might get triggered, I realize that I cannot post here and say what I truly feel. If you all are that sensitive, how the hell do you get dressed in the morning? So go ahead, call me the big bad meanie. I don’t care. I’m 45 years old, and if I need to say something, I need to say it without worrying if I hurt someone’s feelings.

   Are you trying to tell us that you want to get angry and insult people here, but that you are just too sensitive to handle it if they get angry with you in response??  I think you’re a very sensitive guy.  That’s probably part of why I like you.  Take care of yourself.  Be kind to yourself and Claudia. Sincerely Stewart — The Metaphor Man  *and*  The Great Defender of the Self (remove the SPAMBLOCK) Please send me an e-mail copy of your posted response.

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Gee, I love these "goodbye and fuck you all, you whiny losers" posts. Makes you wonder how this person managed to be your friend before, if you were such a whiny lame ass namby pamby. I haven’t talked to you before, you haven’t offended me at all…i wish you well in your life. ~Lady Angela The time has come for me to go back into lurker mode. I will not be posting but sporadically after tonight. I have several reasons for this action: 1. My wife and I intend to devote more time to each other rather than to the Internet. It’s been a blast, but now it’s the past.

Uh huh.  Gee, Larry, I hope that goes smashingly.  Judging from your posts to each other here, it sounds like you’re in for a bumpy ride. 2. My new job with the phone company means more demands on my time, but at the same time allows me social interaction with others. I intend to take advantage of that opportunity. We will be having a big beach bash in about a month and I need to get in shape to play on the V-Ball team.

Yes, do make sure to have those priorities straight. 3. My depression has recessed to the point that I can focus on other things then posting here. My thanks to all of you who have responded to my posts in the past. You’ve all been a big help.

When we’re not being lame ass namby pambies, we can be rather helpful. 4. Quite frankly, after the non-reaction I got when I tried to help RC campaign for our rights to proper treatment, made me decide that there are other groups where my time can be better spent, with people who WANT help. I know Claudia shares my feelings about this. We are only here for a short period of time on this orb. I do not intend to waste another minute helping those who would rather wallow in self pity.

Exsqueeze me???  Gee, maybe I didn’t get all enthusiastic and shit because: Sure, I’d love to have better treatment from the insurance companies, but it’s not going to happen in just a month.   Instead of whining about our lack of enthusiasm, think about how strong yours must be if you’re quitting so soon. 5. After realizing just how much spoilering I need to do, when I get angry, because someone might get triggered, I realize that I cannot post here and say what I truly feel. If you all are that sensitive, how the hell do you get dressed in the morning? So go ahead, call me the big bad meanie. I don’t care. I’m 45 years old, and if I need to say something, I need to say it without worrying if I hurt someone’s feelings.

"All"????  One person says they’re triggered by Napster posts and suddenly we’re "all" sensitive?? As we go through life, believe me, others do not give a shit whether they hurt our feelings. They don’t say "XXXX, if you don’t like what I have to say because it’s bad news then don’t listen" They don’t spoiler their conversation when they fire you, break up with you, or evict you for non-payment of the rent. This is supposed to be an extension of real life. If so, then why shoudn’t we be able to speak freely without spoilering?

Like, duh!!  But it’s a courtesy we’re able to extend to others here. Remember courtesy?  You know, the big bad world could be nicer if we’d remember courtesy.  But I guess only lame ass namby pambies use courtesy. When I saw that Claudia had to spoiler a post for napster because some lame ass namby pamby was getting "triggered", I realized that you all have NO concept of real life.

Again I say "all"????   Since when have *I* posted about being triggered by Napster posts??  It was ONE lousy person (and truly, I have to agree with you that being triggered by Napster is pretty inexplicable).   But that doesn’t mean we’re ALL lame ass namby pambies all of a sudden.  Get real, Larry. Go ahead, the next time you get stopped by a traffic cop for breaking a traffic law, tell him you want him not to say he’s gonna give you a ticket, because you’re afraid it will "trigger" you. Go ahead. I dare you. He’ll laugh and write you the ticket anyways, if he doesn’t haul you off to the local hospital. Some of you will flame me for this. Be my guest. I wrote this, no one else did.

Hell yes, I’m going to flame you.  I don’t think you were thinking clearly when you wrote this. Therefore I am responsible for any consequences that may occur, for my words. I can accept that and take responsibility for my actions.

Good for you, big man!!  Although somehow I suspect Claudia would disagree with you……. Can you?

Yes.  Surprised??? Adios, Larry M. Dinkoff 02/27/2000 10:30 PM EST

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